Dreamers

Your father long ago told you to grow up and quit pursuing acting as a career.”

Piecing Together Your Dreams
Pursuing their dreams: actors, writers and directors; stragglers, success stories and hard-luck cases.

An excerpt from Book One in “The Knowledge Path Series” dedicated to helping you find more meaning and passion in your life.

It’s an old story.

Wanna be actors land in Hollywood chasing an elusive dream.

More recently, during the winter of 2012 – 2013, Kurt Streeter, writing for the Los Angeles Times, hung out at an unpretentious cafe in Atwater Village.

Coffee Shop Communities

He profiled one of the neighborhood residents who moved there three years.

Like many others chasing his dream he had been acting since the age of three, but was still waiting for his big break.  

The regulars, a group of a dozen or so, eased his loneliness and shared his Hollywood ambition:

Hollywood Land of Dreams

Amy, the animator who had worked on “South Park,” Nicholas, whose latest film was well received at the Sundance Film Festival, and a rising African American actor who worried about being typecast in criminal roles.

They stayed for hours, talking, typing, hunched hard over laptops, nursing lattes.

They were actors, writers and directors; stragglers, success stories and hard-luck cases.

Mobile Writers and Freelancers

A woman reads over her dissertation; a freelance reporter plans his next story; two producers discuss financing for an independent movie.

Observing the scene, the servers and baristas say, look this is their place so you don’t bother them.

But over time you begin to notice.

“After a while you just see them sort of losing hope. And then, just like that, we don’t see them anymore.”

Privately, after so many failed attempts, the internal dialog goes something like this —

Is it time to give up on your dream of making it in Hollywood? 

Your father long ago told you to grow up and quit pursuing acting as a career.

“It’s so easy to say that. 

Easy to criticize, doubt, say ‘give up’ and  ‘I told you so.’ … I’ve never been one for easy.”

Steps:

(4) Nurture your passions and express your uniqueness — no one else can or will, for that matter.

Off the Grid or Out of Your Mind?

The big houses, the Humvees, the SUVs, all of that is just the same here and in a way, people are really conspicuous consumers here in the country just like in the city.“

Self Reliance: escaping Laguna Beach, building a cabin in the Durango wilderness.

An excerpt from Book Three in “The Knowledge Path Series” dedicated to helping you find the place of your dreams.

Christopher Sowers made me do it.

Or more accurately our conversation triggered a connection to a chapter I hadn’t even yet scheduled for my rewrite.

From his “How to Miss Out on $100 Million of Warren Buffett Money and Still Be Happy” I linked two things together.

David Petersen’s tale of fleeing Laguna Beach, California, years ago out of his fear of what it would become.

With recent news that Mr. Buffet is selling his beach front mansion for about $11 million.

Ready or not, here’s the chapter.

It’s about how Birds-of-a-Feather (BOF) can find each other in new quality-of-life neighborhoods and live authentic lives.

We zero in on the lower left-hand corner of the Colorado map.

Basecamp (Page 135)

If you read this far (in the book) you will notice only Pagosa Springs, Silverton and Telluride made the BOF bucket lists — not Durango.

So why Durango?

It is centrally located, even though it’s located in a different travel region than Pagosa Springs (South Central Colorado).

There’s that.

And, a little later you’ll discover a lifestyle surprise.

But, enough for now.

Durango, Silverton and Telluride fall within the same Southwestern Colorado travel region.

From Durango take US-550 north to Silverton for just under 50 miles or just over an hour’s drive depending upon weather and road conditions, or … take the narrow gauge train.

 

From Durango to Telluride take CO-145 north for just under 115 miles or just over a 2-hour drive — or follow 550 north from Silverton and cut back on Sherman St.

From Durango to Mesa Verde National Park take Highway 160 west 35 miles to absorb its spectacular look into the lives of the Ancestral Pueblo with its 600 cliff dwellings.

So, let’s pick Durango as our “Basecamp” and take day trips to explore all the remaining outposts.

But, first a seasonal precaution, similar to the one issued to travelers attempting to navigate the Tioga Pass short cut out of Yosemite valley on their way to the Eastern Sierra portion of the Sierra Nevada travel region.

The heavy snows force road closures.

You travel on Highway 160 from Pagosa Springs to Durango for about 60 miles which will take over an hour based on traffic, weather and road conditions.

Locals will tell you the trip north on 160 from Pagosa Springs to Alamosa, CO can be treacherous during all seasons as you drive through Wolf Creek Pass.

 

The road receives heavy snowfall and is often closed during the winter.

Many people die each year when driving through the steep grades and tight switchbacks.

So,be especially careful when driving during the winter.

And, if that’s not enough.

While Highway 160 west to Durango, CO is safe except through the pass, be extremely wary of wildlife at night and icy roads in winter.

There is no cellular service from Aspen Springs to Bayfield (30 mi).

And, some long-time, self-sufficient Durango residents living on the wild edge really, really like it that way.

Thomas Curwen writing in the Los Angeles Times at the end of spring in 2005, “Lives set to a wilder rhythm” profiled authors who stepped outside the gridlock of modern life and set up in the woods.

Curwen interviewed David Petersen who purchased an acre and a half of land now some thirty-three years ago 15 miles outside of Durango, Colo.

Petersen had built a cabin, and at the article’s publication date, had lived there all this time with his wife.

The cabin served as a home base for his lifestyle business.

Then 59 years old, a 55+ Baby Boomer, he worked for the conservation organization Trout Unlimited, and wrote “On the Wild Edge: In Search of a Natural Life”

In it he explored the satisfactions and dilemmas posed by wilderness and self-sufficiency in the world as it was a decade ago.

Like the Whitefish, Montana, ex-Californians — Dudley from Woodland Hills and Arthur from Chino — Petersen became eager to leave the Golden State.

Having spent the ’70s when he was in his ’20s, the age of today’s Millennials, living along the California coast in Laguna Beach.

Back then, what could have been better?

Laguna Canyon Road attracted kids like him in their 20s looking for self-expression following the human potential movement.

Struggling artists, musicians and surfers hung out on the beach next to the Hotel Laguna. But, then …

“Real estate prices tripled, it got too crowded, too noisy.”

Here, then is a snapshot first taken in the summer of 2008, three years after Curwen’s article, describing Laguna Beach’s more permanent physical profile.

Location At-A-Glance

Region: Western United States, Pacific Coast Region

State: California

Travel Region: Southern California, South Coast Region

County: Orange

Town: Laguna Beach

Real Estate Phase: Late Maturity

Population Density: Town and Country, Suburbs

Three decades earlier, Petersen feared the worst for Laguna Beach.

And, for his like-minded, long-time resident friends it did.

In 2008, roughly 30 years after he settled in Durango’s wilderness, Laguna became the home of artists, Wireless Resorters and Wealthy Influentials.

Profile At-A-Glance (Summer 2008)

Zip Code: 92651

Life Stages: Singles, Couples, Midlife, Baby Boomers

Ages: 30–44, 45+, 55+

Community Neighbors:

Wealthy Influentials

Affluently Elite — WIAE

01M1S1, Upper Crust, 45+, Couples, Affluent Empty-Nests, Elite Suburbs, WIAE Affluently Elite, Wealthy Influentials (Half Moon Bay, CA)

03Y1S1, Movers & Shakers,  30-44, Couples, Midlife Success, Elite Suburbs, WIAE Affluently Elite, Wealthy Influentials (Scottsdale, AZ)

Exurb Society — WIES

08Y1S2, Executive Suites , 30-44,  Couples, Midlife Success, Affluentials, WIES Exurb Society, Wealthy Influentials (Mission Viejo, CA)

14M2S2, New Empty Nests, 55+, Couples, Conservative Classics, Affluentials, WIES Exurb Society, Wealthy Influentials (Indian Wells, CA)

Community Neighbors:

Wireless Resorters

Maturing Resorts — WRMR

11Y1T1, God’s Country, 30-44, Couples, Midlife Success, Landed Gentry, WRMR Maturing Resorts, Wireless Resorters (Boulder, CO)

Laguna Beach had become home to the top 14 status and income generating households.

(Buffett is asking $11 million for the 6-bedroom, 7-bath home, which boasts a separated family room with a large sundeck facing the ocean- Zillow)

And like Rafael and his restaurant family in Cabo San Lucas, Mexico, anticipating the inevitable — the impending development — signaled it was time for Petersen to move on.

Relocating from the Southern California coast to the mountains was more of an escape — a running away, of a trying to flee something instead of trying to go toward something

He didn’t target Durango, Colorado, though.

I didn’t have any goal in mind other than just living in a clean, wild place and trying to construct a life that would allow me as much personal freedom and control over my time as possible.

He could have chosen any of the other authentic towns on the California BOF bucket list like in:

Southern California — Idyllwild, 92549; Julian, 92036 and Lake Arrowhead, 92352 in the local mountains; or

Sierra Nevada — Oakhurst, 93644; North Fork, 93643; Bishop, 93514; Squaw Valley, 96146; Tahoe City, 96145; and Truckee, 96161; or

Central Coast — Big Sur, 93920 along Pacific Coast Highway in Monterey County near the Esalen Institute or the Camaldoli Hermitage.

But, once in Durango, he built the cabin using post-and-beam construction because it was easy.

“You sink upright posts 3 feet in the ground as the main supports, then string the wall beams horizontally along those.

One day I realized I’d cut a post a couple feet too short, but rather than pull it out and do all that work, I just went along the line and cut all the other posts off to match the short one.”

That short-cut came back to haunt him.

“I must have had sunstroke that day because losing that 2 feet of roof along the high edge reduced what was to have been a loft room to a crawl-space attic and reduced the slope of the roof sufficiently that it doesn’t slide snow well.

It is one of the dumbest things I’ve ever done.”

While some lifestyle business people pursue the magic of living off the grid, Petersen had something else in mind.

My primary aspiration has been self-reliance more than self-sufficiency. I find self-sufficiency an impossible dream in this modern world. You can’t get away from it entirely, and frankly, there’s a lot of good stuff there that you don’t want to get away from.

He set up “Basecamp” before it became easy to open a Knowledge ATM, so he told Curwen there’s a lot of bartering that goes on here as well.

I will trade labor and meat and things like that to people who have orchards and people who do have great gardens.

The important thing, no matter where you live, is for a self-directed life, a recognition that by choosing simplicity in whatever ways you can, you reduce your reliance on materialism.

When he chose the title “On the Wild Edge,” what he wanted to get across was we’ve become slaves to our possessions.

It’s not a dropping out.

It’s positioning yourself where you can pick and choose.

He was careful not to paint a picture that this is the best way to live. Especially encouraging even more people to come booming out of the cities.

As you’re talking about your new high-end development, that’s the same thing that’s happened to this place since the mid-’90s.

And there’s just not enough room for everybody to live in the country.

It seems the majority of people that have moved here in the last few years are bringing their city attitudes with them.

The big houses, the Humvees, the SUVs, all of that is just the same here and in a way, people are really conspicuous consumers here in the country just like in the city.

Only Moab is a bigger mountain-bike capital than Durango, he said.

I pass them — the mountain bikers, that is — on the trail up in the forest, and it’s not just that you shouldn’t be here because I don’t like it, it’s because you’re going so fast, you’re not seeing anything, you’re not hearing anything, you’re not smelling anything.

Just get off that thing and relax, walk, go sit under a tree somewhere for a while.

You get so much more out of it.

Steps:

22. Selectively evaluate the best quality-of-life communities to live in and weigh the tradeoffs of risk and rewards for accruing real estate appreciation along a progression of rural and small towns that meet what your pocket books can afford.

Life On Your Own Terms

 

“Contrary to local belief, Aspen is not recession-proof.”

Sidewalks, holes and habits: Where can you find an authentic quality-of-lifestyle you want and deserve?

 

An excerpt from Book One in “The Knowledge Path Series” dedicated to helping you find more meaning and passion in your life.

These were the nagging questions that launched my journey. 

  • Where can you live an authentic quality-of-life? 
  • Why does the meaning of life elude you as you pass through time?

From “Autobiography in Five Short Chapters,” by Portia Nelson from her book, “There’s A Hole in My Sidewalk.”

I

I walk, down the street.

There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.

I fall in

I am lost … I am helpless

It is my fault.

It takes forever to find a way out.

II

I walk down the same street.

There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.

I pretend I don’t see it.

I fall in again.

I can’t believe I am in the same place,

but it isn’t my fault.

It still takes a long time to get out.

III

I walk, down the street.

There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.

I see it is there.

I still fall in … it’s a habit

my eyes are open.

I know where I am.

It is my fault.

I get out immediately.

IV

I walk down the same street.

There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.

I walk around it.

V

I walk down another street.

Where’s your sidewalk taking you?

Are you …

  • Going through the motions?
  • Stuck in a rut?

Is it time to launch your journey on a new and different path?

  • What are your alternatives for becoming unstuck?
  • Where can you find an authentic quality-of-lifestyle you want and deserve?

One with financial appreciation that can secure your future?

If you’re like me you still haven’t shaken off the far-reaching effects of the Great Recession.

We all know friends and family members who suffered.

You pinched pennies.

Went without for so long, that you feel guilty with each little splurge .

“Dessert?” 

“No thank you. Wait … No.”

Before 2008 the world looked much brighter.

But by the 2008–2009 winter ski season, even the local Aspen, Colorado papers reported …

“Contrary to local belief, Aspen is not recession-proof.”

Their real estate was no longer a billionaire’s market, Mariah Carey’s Ski Chalet not withstanding.

Bernie Madoff’s scandal (remember him?) even scorched local affluent residents.

Times change.

The world looks as bright as then, but then few of us anticipated the next recession. Or the opportunities it brought.

You don’t want to mortgage your family to the hilt, only to lose everything.

But, you deserve so much more.

  • Who would turn down more money?
  • Or a little more prestige?
  • Feel a little more at peace with yourself?
  • Travel in certain circles?

This is a great time to sit down with your spouse, family, or friends and really consider how you can get ahead and where you would want to live.

And just plain enjoy yourself.

Just play a little more.